What might be some concerns?

Somatic intimacy services involve body-based practices that help people reconnect emotionally and physically, such as breathwork, safe touch, nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, or other embodied methods to promote intimacy and healing.

Some key concerns from a biblical standpoint aren’t necessarily about the modality itself—but about:

• What kinds of touch or interaction are involved

• Whether it involves sexual elements or closeness that should be reserved for the couple

• The potential for emotional or physical entanglement

• The sacredness of marriage and how an SIE role fits into that

Is It Unbiblical?

There’s nothing in Scripture that explicitly forbids someone (including a single woman) from offering healing, therapeutic, or supportive services to a married couple.

But Scripture does emphasize:

• The sanctity of the marriage bed (Hebrews 13:4)

• Avoiding even the appearance of impropriety (1 Thessalonians 5:22)

• Honoring others’ relationships and not doing anything that might cause temptation, jealousy, or confusion (Romans 14:13; Ephesians 5:3)

So, intentions and boundaries matter a lot here. I intend to support a couple’s connection, not replace or redirect it. This is also a dynamic that I will continually address throughout our time together and check-in. 

Boundaries I Consider and Uphold

A. I Work with the Couple Together

• • I do not work with just the husband alone.

B. I Keep Touch Non-Sexual and Professional

• • Any work that involves physical touch, is kept within therapeutic, non-sexual parameters, with very few exceptions. 

  • What’s allowed and not allowed is always made clear in each session.

C. I Implement Clear Agreements and Consent

• • Written agreements, intake forms, and a professional approach are always used with each couple.

  • I act as a facilitator NOT a participant.

D. I Encourage Spiritual and Emotional Growth Between Them

• • I point you toward each other, through reflections and discussions about the practices. I talk less than you talk.

  • I help you learn to communicate, regulate, and connect with each other, not develop dependence on me.

E. I Have Personal Accountability

• • I continually seek spiritual mentorship and counseling about my practice.

Questions I Continually Ask Myself in Prayer (And you could reflect on too)

• Am I helping this couple grow closer to each other and God?

• Could any part of my role cause confusion or temptation?

• Am I being led by love, wisdom, and the Spirit—or something else?

• If Jesus were physically in the room, would He smile at what’s happening?

Concern 1: Is This Work Sexual in Nature or Practice?

Biblical Concern:

The Bible clearly places sex and sexual expression within the covenant of marriage (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 6:18–20). So anything that resembles sexual activity or arouses sexual desire outside of marriage could be a spiritual and moral concern.

Discernment Question:

Does this work involve or provoke sexual arousal? Is the educator acting as a surrogate or creating a dynamic that belongs only in a marital relationship?

Wisdom Response/ Boundaries I Uphold:

I keep sessions strictly non-sexual in practice (even if it’s about sexual healing), focus on embodiment, healing, and education—and conduct with clear professional and ethical boundaries—to engage in sessions with integrity. But transparency and caution are essential.

Concern 2: Could This Lead to Temptation or Sin?

Biblical Concern:

Jesus said in Matthew 5:28 that even lustful thoughts can be sinful. Paul also warns in 1 Thessalonians 5:22 to “avoid every kind of evil,” which may be interpreted as also avoiding situations that could appear inappropriate or lead to temptation.

Discernment Question:

Could this situation lead to inappropriate emotional attachment, lust, or confusion in boundaries?

Wisdom Response/ Boundaries I Uphold:

I seek accountability. If someone is married, they should include their spouse in the decision or even the sessions, if appropriate. Everyone involved should be emotionally honest and spiritually grounded to avoid blurred lines.

Concern 3: Is This Inviting a Worldview That Conflicts with Scripture?

Biblical Concern:

The Bible encourages believers to seek wisdom rooted in God’s Word (Colossians 2:8). Some somatic or sex-positive philosophies may draw from spiritual frameworks (e.g. tantra, New Age beliefs) that don’t align with biblical teachings.

Discernment Question:

Is the educator promoting ideas about sexuality, identity, or spirituality that conflict with my biblical values?

Wisdom Response/ Boundaries I Uphold:

Not all somatic educators teach from the same worldview. I teach from the perspective of a Christian woman. It’s wise to ask questions about my approach, philosophy, and what I believe about the body, intimacy, and healing. A believer can work with a practitioner as long as they remain rooted in their own faith and filter everything through Scripture.

Concern 4: Does This Undermine the Role of the Church or Holy Spirit in Healing?

Biblical Concern:

Healing ultimately comes from God—body, soul, and spirit (Psalm 147:3; James 5:14-16). There may be a concern that relying on somatic work alone could bypass prayer, community, or Scripture.

Discernment Question:

Am I inviting God into this healing work, or replacing Him with a human method?

Wisdom Response/ Boundaries I Uphold:

As a part of my practice, I start every session in prayer. Somatic work can be one part of holistic healing. The key is integration—bringing your body before God, asking for His guidance, and possibly combining somatic work with prayer, pastoral support, or Christian counseling. I encourage everyone who works with me to have a community-based approach to healing. 

Each month, I have four Pay What You Can sessions (minimum $15 for 90 minutes) to make this accessible to marginalized individuals. Please discuss this with me during your intake. If I cannot accommodate you at the time of your intake, I will add you to the waitlist.   

DISCOUNT PRICES for 1st 5 Clients- 50% Off

Me, Myself, & I: 

• In-Person: $75 per 1.5-hour session

• Online: $50 per 1.5-hour session

Me, Myself, & Us: 

• In-Person: $112 per 1.5-hour session 

• Online: $87 per 1.5-hour session

Waiting for Intimacy

• In-Person: $287 for all 3 sessions 

• Online: $262 for all 3 sessions 

Already Intimate

• In-Person: $287 for all 3 sessions 

• Online: $262 for all 3 sessions 

*Services are currently listed at a student facilitator rate. Rates will increase upon full certification or after the completion of other certifications.

Coaching includes 1.5-hour long sessions, in person or online, in which we work on your intentions to bring about balance in your intimate life. Meetings are client-led and include talking and various exercises based on your goals and boundaries. 

Somatic intimacy education is rooted in the understanding that our bodies carry stories—especially around intimacy, touch, consent, and boundaries. A trauma-informed approach recognizes that many people have experienced some form of trauma, whether physical, emotional, sexual, or relational. Rather than pushing past discomfort, somatic work gently supports healing at the pace your body and nervous system can safely handle.

What “Trauma-Informed” Means:

A trauma-informed practitioner:

• Prioritizes Safety: Emotional, physical, and psychological safety are foundational. You’re always in control, and consent is ongoing, not one-time.

• Practices Consent and Boundaries: You’ll never be touched without explicit, enthusiastic permission. You can pause or stop at any time—for any reason.

• Supports Nervous System Regulation: Practices like breathwork, grounding, and slow touch help regulate the nervous system, which is often dysregulated by trauma.

• Honors Individual Experience: There is no “right” way to feel. All emotions, reactions, and body responses are welcome and met with compassion, not judgment.

• Avoids Re-traumatization: The work is designed to empower—not trigger—by working with the body, not against it.

Why It Matters in Sex Education:

Trauma often lives in the body, not just the mind. Somatic sex education helps people reconnect with their bodies in a way that feels safe, present, and empowered. Whether someone is healing from past harm or simply wants a deeper connection with their own sensuality or with a partner, a trauma-informed lens ensures the journey is compassionate and respectful.

Depending on your goals/ intentions, exercises include varying degrees of talking, touch, breath, and movement. ALL activities conducted in sessions are chosen by you, the client. NOTHING happens that you do not request. Below are some common exercises that may be offered and a brief description. 

*Means no touch is necessary.

*Wheel of Consent Discussion: This discussion talks about how to communicate to make it clear who touch is for. Having these skills helps in overall communication in all aspects of life and works toward asking and giving consent. 

3-Minute Game: This exercise works on communication during plutonic touch through turn-taking and using the wheel of consent. Partners take turns giving and receiving touch for themselves and for the other person, working toward asking for what they want and being more specific while it’s actually happening. 

*Indirect vs. Direct Pleasure Discussion: This discussion discusses the different avenues we can take to receive pleasure. It helps raise awareness about "Who is this for?"

*Anatomy Education: We discuss the different parts of the varying anatomy including the scientific names using pictures or other visual aids. Through this education, it develops clear language about the body and its parts for empowerment and communication. 

Guided Mapping/ Massage: With guidance, you discover or become curious about the different parts of your anatomy or your partner's.

Cultivating Somatic/ Body Awareness: These exercises work toward bringing about more awareness of ourselves in relation to others. This helps work toward more informed choices, building foundational skills in body autonomy/awareness as well as giving and receiving consent. 

• *Centering and Grounding

• *Find Your Right (Or OK Enough) Size 

• *Find Your Right (Or OK Enough) Place

• *Come Hither

• *Somatic/ Body Alliance

• Waking of the Hands

• *Mirroring

• *Open Eyes- Hello; Close Eyes- Goodbye

• *Hand Dance

• *Full Body “Dance”

• *Body Conversation- my body does this when your body does that

*Body Poem: This exercise involves getting as comfortable as possible (lying down, blankets, pillows, etc.) and getting into a relaxed, meditative state. Then focus on a part of the body and let words flow about sensations, words, colors, textures, or any other observations and share it with the facilitator. Then the facilitator reads back what you have said so that you can receive a subconscious message from your body. 

Bossy Touch (Or No Touch) Session: This exercise first involves setting an intention for the session and both the facilitator and the participant setting boundaries that will remain for the entire session. The purpose of this session is to connect with oneself and ask for what you want and get it as long as it falls within the facilitator’s own boundaries. 

*Desire Interview:  This exercise creates space for you to fully express your desires with an active listener. As you express yourself, the interviewer will ask questions to help you go deeper into your desires to know them better. 

*Listening Turns: This exercise involves experiencing both the listening and talking roles. A set amount of time is agreed upon for each role, and then you switch. This builds better listening skills and gives the experience of being fully attended to and seen. 

Dearmouring: This practice involves slow, touch guided by you in areas of possible pain or defense. Through this exercise, tension and pain may be released and create space for sensation and pleasure. 

Guided Partnered Massage: This practice involves guided touch between partners. An educator is present as a third party to help in moments of confusion or breakdown and educate on techniques in real time. 

Facilitated Rest/ Nesting: This practice is about getting picky about getting as comfortable as possible. It is a guided experience where a person is supported in deep relaxation, often in a safe, cozy, and nurturing environment. This practice is designed to help individuals reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems, and cultivate a deeper sense of embodiment. 

Somatic sex education can be a single or ongoing service. Services can continue as long as you feel you need them or if we come to some other type of agreement based on your circumstances. Typically sessions are 1 time a week but the schedule can be flexible based on your individual needs and intentions. Sessions are a minimum of 90 minutes. 

Just be comfortable. Wear items that make you feel good and are easy to adjust.